~ The Singles Coach - Trisha Stone ~

The Singles Coach: Become the chooser in relationships & don't settle for less than your perfect partner

We all have our story Here's why I am passionate about working with you I have been single, married, divorced, a single parent, married again, divorced, single, dating and am now with a partner. This is why I’m passionate about working with women to help them find the relationship that they desire. My pattern of relationships is not unusual. Perhaps you never married but had a succession of relationships. Whatever your experience you can always learn what makes a successful relationship. I know because I have. Early beginnings I first married very young age, at just 18. It seems quite ridiculous now to make such a momentous decision at such an early stage of life. Anyway, there I was two years later at 20, a young wife and a young mother. Within a very short time I felt trapped and left the marriage with my son. Struggling to find myself Being a single parent when you are in your early 20s is quite a challenge. My life was somewhat limited and I had little opportunity for a social life. There’s nothing quite so crushingly isolating as being a single parent when all your contemporaries are living their lives and developing their careers. Looking for a way out After three years of this situation I took the recommendation of a friend to join a dating agency – remember, there was no internet dating in those days. Through the agency I met a man who was to become my second husband. We married when I was 24. And they lived happily ever after… Well, we almost did. We were together for 22 years and had two gorgeous daughters. Throughout this period we lived in the UK and Africa. I developed my creative life, working in textiles. I took a Post-graduate Diploma in Business & Public Sector Strategy and then spent 15 years working with a housing association and various other charities. I also worked in my community running art projects and leading life transition workshops. But it didn’t last When I was 46 I decided to leave my marriage. For the first time I set up a home for myself and tried to work out what living as an independent woman was all about. These were trying times but they were also years of discovery and growth. For the first time I learnt something deeper about what I wanted for my life and gradually began to thrill to the sense that I was moving forward. And then… Two years on I started to date via the newly emerging internet sites. It was fun, absolutely nerve-wracking and exhilarating. I was dating and getting out there, and felt as if I was doing in my 40s what my contemporaries had done in their 20s. Of course ultimately I was still looking for that perfect someone. Finally I met a someone - in many ways a very lovely man. Although there were aspects of our world view that didn’t fit right from the start, I thought all this would be all right and boldly moved ahead hoping that things would work out. We were together for over two years and looking back I don’t know why I stayed that long. Our relationship had evolved into a “mini-marriage”: we did everything together but without the commitment.

Time to change some patterns Towards the end of the relationship I had started working with a life coach. Since then so much has changed, including my whole perspective on myself and my vision for the rest of my life. I decided to train as a life coach which I did while continuing to work.
The Relationship Coaching Institute Having completed my coaching training I was thinking hard, as many coaches do, about the area I wanted to specialise in. I soon discovered The Relationship Coaching Institute and realised with great excitement that here was an organisation which had been working for over 10 years on what really makes relationships tick. I completed their dedicated training for singles relationship coaches, and became certified specifically to work with single people. I was in my element, and knew I’d found the perfect ‘fit’. What I learned - and implemented myself along the way - is that lasting, committed relationships do of course need passion, but they also need to be based on shared values. Even if these values aren’t identical they should be complementary. We must use our heads as well as our hearts when we are considering entering into a committed relationship. To find the relationship of our dreams we have to become ‘Conscious Daters’, fully aware of who we are, what we want in a relationship and how to go out and find that special person.
Where I am now I am now licensed to deliver the ‘Conscious Dating’ programme in the UK and internationally. I continue to be passionate about helping women discover what they want in their lives so that hopefully - unlike me - they do not constantly repeat the destructive patterns of their pasts. I have now become ‘The Chooser’ in my life and my love. Through the internet I met my partner and when it happened it was the most natural & wonderful thing in the world. Your relationship experiences That is my experience. Your story will be different. We are each of us unique. Through my own experience I offer you my learning and expertise to totally change your perspective and prospects in finding the love of your life. What next? If you would like a FREE Coaching session to discuss your dating & relationship options please click on the contact page.